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Offline cyclegirl

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a stresshead in a pub and a confused stranger lady
« on: March 13, 2010, 11:07:05 PM »
Evening guys

I've just gotten home from a couple of hours in a pub celebrating a work colleagues birthday. I knew two of the group well as I work with them and we've gone out for drinks several times before...ok so far...but one of my friends had invited one of their friends, who I didn't know  :o

So, needless to say I've felt a little anxious about this, but ok, am thinking I can handle this new element. I am a witty and intelligent person (plus I'm wearing my very cool, albeit slight geeky fragale rock t-shirt, so whats not to love). Bring it on!

Oh dear. Not sure what it is about meeting new people that makes me

a) laugh like a lunatic when no one else is
b) Unable to speak
3) or unable to speak coherently
4) avoid eye contact with said stranger
5) and fumble desperately with starting a topic of conversation even I'm not interested in

It was not pretty folks and I felt like a complete doghnut. The other thing about this is that we were in a pub that was noisy and claustrophobic, which I find hugely difficult and am very sensitive too.

So, I did what I generally try to do and ran away at the first opportunity. My exit prob wasn't particularly elegant and I think I sometimes come off as being rude. Anyway, think my friends know me well enough not to take offence, however I have prob confused poor stranger lady!

So am home, straight into my pyjamas with a nice cup of tea  ;D much safer like that methinks

Anyway, story of my life but hey ho. I've got a guided cycle ride coming up on 3rd April with new people,  so I am building up all my bravery and witty repertoire *cue ROCKY music* cos I am the eye of the tiger la la la

Night all and hope all is well
'I long, as does every human being, to be at home wherever I find myself.'
Maya Angelou

Offline joey

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Re: a stresshead in a pub and a confused stranger lady
« Reply #1 on: May 20, 2010, 11:13:49 PM »
Ahh, that old chestnut of an unidentified friend of a friend anxiety... I know well!

I hate it when it's just casually thrown in...'Oh by the way do you mind if so and so joins us, you'll love them'...AHHH NO I WON'T love them I resent there very existence already!!!

J x

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Re: a stresshead in a pub and a confused stranger lady
« Reply #2 on: May 21, 2010, 05:41:25 PM »
hahahahaha I resent thier existence already hahahahaha
Yep, am well versed in the "ooh you don't mind that i've invited x do you?". Non-anxious people just do not understand the turmoil this throws us into.