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Offline rlw

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Hello everyone
« on: August 19, 2010, 08:35:13 PM »
Hello everyone, my name's Rhian

I'm looking at a move to Brighton very soon and will definitely be coming along to some of the meets. It will be a relief to be amongst other people who will be able to identify with some of the anxiety issues I have faced over many years. My anxiety manifests itself in various ways (travel, public speaking, general lack of confidence although weirdly I can also feel quite confident in myself too). I've been told that my issues are really difficult to deal with in a relationship, so I really want to make good headway with them now and feel more free of them. I've had various forms of therapy over the years, but what i've come to realise is what works best is self-belief, belief in me by those around me, encouragement and the courage to just do the things I am scared of. Though obviously this is easier said than done.

I'd really love some mates to help me with particularly the travel issues, as I do find it easier with someone who understands. This would be with a view to building up my confidence and doing it more and more. I had some panic attacks on the trains from London to Brighton some years ago and since then i haven't done the journey.

Also, this may amuse you... although it was not funny at the time atall! I once had such a bad panic while staying at The Grand Hotel on my own that I went down to reception in the middle of the night (in my pyjamas) and instructed them to order me a doctor to take me away in a white van! Needless to say, they didn't do this, but the concierge did deliver me some Valium on a silver tray that had been shipped over via taxi from God knows where... hideous experience, but an amusing story now :)

Anyway, look forward to meeting everyone when I move to Brighton which I hope will be in the next few weeks.

Rhian x

Offline Ludo

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Re: Hello everyone
« Reply #1 on: August 20, 2010, 12:25:33 AM »
Hi Rhian and welcome to BAF!

It's great that you've found us, and your definitely in the right place to meet likeminded people who are going through or have gone through many of the experiences that you mention. Make yourself at home and I'll look forward to seeing you at one of the meet-ups when you move to this wonderful city!

I'm not sure if this is what you mean about travel, but I get a little panicky on public transport somethings, I feel far more comfortable in my car. Think it's a bit of a control thing. I would also like to build up the conferdance to go travelling abroad sometime soon, this anxiety has held me back far too long!

Thanks for the little story, I think anxiety also brings with it lots of tragically comic situations, I know I've had my fair share, but shall save those for another time haha.

Bye,

L


Offline cyclegirl

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Re: Hello everyone
« Reply #2 on: August 20, 2010, 06:29:40 AM »
Hey Rhian

Welcome ;D This is a good place to be for support and advice.

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Offline bobble

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Re: Hello everyone
« Reply #3 on: August 27, 2010, 09:41:07 AM »
although weirdly I can also feel quite confident in myself too

Hi Rhian, I'm new too. I really get what you say about feeling quite confident in your self. People seem to get anxiety and confidence mixed up. People often think I'm worried and lacking confidence in certain situation when actually I'm fine.

Look forward to talking with you, Bobble.