Hello, good to be here

[bobble]

Hi All!

Well this is a good find and perfect timing for me. I have lived in Brighton for about 15 years and I am 36 years old.

I have just finished with my GF of 6 years and want to give my live another go. I have never really beet my social anxiety. I have had  whooping 10years of primal therapy that did?t help at all but did give me great insight into my self. When I met my GF I used her as an excuse to not go out anymore and even fooled my self, that I was happy to be a loner. At the time my goal in life was to live in nature as far away from people as possible with my GF and dog.

Then these feeling started to stir in me: the need for fun and adventure and playing around with who I was and relationships with others. When I say relationships I  mean all types. I came to realize that I had given up on my self and the world and it was time to try life again. I could?t do this in the relationship as she was very jealous and suspicious and I would have been interrogated and question for every, self exploration, action I took. So I ended it.

That was about a month ago. I?m now living in a short term let until 18th Sep, which is when I more into my new flat.

I have so much planed and am determined to not let social anxiety get in the way. I really look forward to going to the meetups. I?ll be at the next one, unless I do the classic walk on passed. No, I can do it! Can't wait to meet you all.

Bobble.

[cyclegirl]

Hey Bobble...am loving the name 

I can relate to your story and think your determination is great. This is a good place to start, so welcome!

[bobble]

Hey Bobble...am loving the name 

I can relate to your story and think your determination is great. This is a good place to start, so welcome!

Hi Thanks for the welcome. Look forward to becoming part of the comunity.
 

[Ludo]

Hey Bobble, welcome to BAF!

Wow what an inspiring intro! I very much relate to wanting to have as much fun and adventure as possible, kinda like a reawakening! I moved to Brighton in January after living in quite small cities, and one of my reasons for trying to tackle my social anxiety is my determination not to let my SA hold me back anymore, and to get as much as possible from this great city! There are so many opportunities here to explore so many different lifestyles, and meet so many open and creative people, that I think I shall join you in not letting mere anxiety stop me from living life to the full and on my own terms!

Would be awesome if you can make it to the meet-ups! Take the plunge and you will be rewarded by meeting a supportive group of people to share a cup of coffee or a beer with! The group is very laid back, and I usually come away feeling glad that I've made the effort having had a great evening!

Be good to see you there!

L
  

[someone]

Your really brave to make that change, takes a lot! I can really relate to your story and love to see you at the next meet. Believe me your thing of wanting to live in nature sounds not to far from what i want, which maybe slowly changing. I've only been going for 2 weeks but so far people seem very friendly, as everyone is in the same boat it helps a lot. Think its helped with being pushed in to more social siturations this last year has helped, as i go to experience some lovely things, which i want to continue this so i also have to push myself in to some siturations, as the more you do it, the more you want it and he more you try. (seems to be the case for me). Think its because its often comfort over what we really want that we choose, breaking out of that is hard but you made a great step ect. Which for me personally is moving to Brighton and part of me just wants to stay where i am but there is now no going back.

[bobble]

OMG just spent 1 hour writing a reply and lost it! Never learn always say I'll use a word processor next time then copy and paste. Any way here a shorter version

Thanks for the kind words and support.  Really look forward to meeting everyone. It?s good to have a clean slate. Even my friend?s have moved away. The only commitment I have is my dog who will stay with my x but I will walk him a few times a week. I love him so much.

When I first moved to Brighton I was in a small way beginning to build up my life but then I got my first computer and it?s only now I realise that I had computer addiction for about 10 years. I became an information junky.

When I move into my new flat. I?m not going to have a TV or broadband. I?ll have a laptop but I?ll go out to wifi spots for internet. I want to go out for my entertainment.

I have always avoided situation that would make me anxious but that seems to be anything that?s fun and exiting. Well, now I?m going to follow my anxiety. 

Glad to read others are challenging their anxiety and doing thinks they want to do in life. What I have learnt of late is that people don?t give a **** if I have a panic attack. I used to think they did and felt bad for making them uncomfortable. Anyway what they feel is none of my business or responsibility.

It?s all fun.

[Noisy]

Hey Bobble! Welcome to the forum and to the meets.

It was really great chatting to you yesterday and I hope we'll see you again. 

[Capricorn]

Hi Bobble was great to meet you Wednesday and hope you can make it next week. Have a good weekend...Eli

[bobble]

Thank you so much. I had really nice time and look forward to the next one. I felt so welcome. You're all amazing!
Bobble.

[Ludo]

Hey Bobble great to meet you again today and to have the chance to say hi! Look forward to seeing you at the meet again next week!

[bobble]

hi ludo, thanks, look forward more chat's too. Hope you have a good week. Bobble :-)